Christ & Church = Husband & Wife

If your marriage is not a reflection of Christ and His Church then it’s time for a family meeting ASAP!

Christ is the head of the church; husbands are head of the home. Christ is to husbands as church is to wives. The church should not be making any moves without first consulting Christ. Wives your husbands are the head of your household, you should not be making any moves or decisions without first consulting them! If you are doing that then you have a deeper issue at hand. You and your husband are not equal, you each have a role and you need to learn what yours is. If you think that you’re in a partnership with your husband and you have just as much a say as he does than I’m here to tell you today that you’ve been mislead.

God has put in place a perfect order that we are to obey. He tells us what that order is and why it should be that way. If you’re not consulting your husband before you make decisions then chances are you’re not consulting Christ either. You can’t consult one and not the other.

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:22-33

Most women that have a problem with this are those that struggle to revere, respect and submit not only to their husbands but to any sort of authority figure. Beloved daughters, you were not made to be in control and have the final say. You’re miserable most of the time because you’re not being who God created and designed you to be. You will continue to be unhappy and unsuccessful until you learn who you truly are supposed to be. If you have a problem with bringing all things before your husband then your problem is really with Christ and you need to restore and get that in order before you can even think of having a successful, harmonious marriage.

I don’t respect, love and submit to my husband out of fear. I don’t respect, love and submit to Christ out of fear. I do it out of pure, unconditional love and reverence for them and their position of authority over me and my life.

Women of today are so mixed up and tainted by what the world has to say that they’ve forgotten about what Christ has said regarding the union of marriage. Women are so caught up in having equal rights, careers and trying to run the show and then wonder why all they do is fight with their husbands.

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. Titus 2:3-5

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 1 Peter 3:1

I challenge you to meditate on these scriptures and search your heart today. Ask the Lord to show you the areas in your life and in your marriage where you’re out of His order. Ask Him to teach you how to come into alignment with the way he designed your marriage to be. Ask Him to forgive you for not respecting your husband’s authority. Ask the Lord to forgive you for your unwillingness to submit to your husband (& Christ). Ask the Lord to change your heart and show you what it means to be a peacemaking godly woman, the kind of woman he designed you to be. Ask the Lord to stop you in your tracks every time you start to make a decision without consulting your husband.

(See also Piper’s commentary, Weighty Words on the Meaning of a Husband’s Headship)