Know Your Role

I honestly feel that the roles of men and women have been so badly misconstrued over the years. People aren’t even aware that there are any roles let alone ‘playing’ theirs. God has given man a role and woman a role. They are different, they are separate but equally important. The part that each ‘play’ in a relationship is the key to its success. If you aren’t aware that you have a specific role then please pick up a Bible and read all about it. We were made in a specific way for a specific purpose. A watch was made to tell time, that’s what it does best, if all the watch wants to do is run a marathon, it’s going to be a miserable watch and a complete failure in it’s endeavors.

In my observation, it seems these days that women are becoming more and more like men and less and less like the lovely, Godly, peacemaking woman they were created to be. There are many factors that contribute to this problem. Women seem to lack understanding and knowledge in this area. They are unaware they should be a certain way because they were made a certain way. There also seems to be a lack of good, loving, God fearing men willing to take the role and responsibility God has given them. In turn, this contributes to the whole role confusion problem.

Women, you have a very important role in life and in your marriage. Seek to be the Godly woman God intended for you to be. Stop being so bossy and stop trying to be in control of everything, humble yourself and don’t be afraid to submit to the authority that God has placed in your life. If you can’t respect and obey your husband what makes you think you’re able to respect and obey God? Respecting your husband is respecting God. That means, if your disrespecting your husband you’re disrespecting God and you’re in sin. Learn to accept and love the position you’ve been made for. Stop trying to be things you were never created to be. When you learn to do this you will be happy and content in all things. You will find the peace you’ve been searching for. Your husband will love you more than you ever imagined possible. Your role as a woman and a wife is a vital one and if you’ve turned into someone God never created you to be how will you ever fulfill the purpose He has for you? The answer is, you won’t.

Respect your husband. Stop trying to “put on the pants” whenever you want, you weren’t created to wear them, you can’t be both man and woman. Embrace the truth, you are a beloved daughter of our Heavenly Father, a special, uniquely created woman. Know your role and stop disrespecting and undermining your husband. Trust in the Lord.

Men, how are you holding up with your God given responsibilities? Are you the spiritual head of your house? Are you loving your wife the way Christ loved the church? Do you take your wife into account every time you make a decision that will greatly affect her? Do you have her best interest at heart? Are you loving your wife as much as you love yourself?

Women, respect your husbands unconditionally. That means even if your husband “doesn’t deserve it” respect him anyway. Find out what it is he finds disrespectful and don’t do it! Men, love your wife unconditionally. Even when she’s unlovely and “doesn’t deserve it”, love her anyway. We seem to always want to put the blame on someone else rather than swallow our pride and take responsibility for our actions. Be obedient. Become what you were created to be. Stop fighting your way through life trying to be someone or something you were never meant to be!

“Humble yourself, trust in the Lord and exalt God above yourself.” (Pastor Tim Chambers, 2009)

Single Daughters, learn this truth now, prepare yourself, be ready for the day you become a wife.